Networking Like a Pro as an Introvert

I know, I know… to all my fellow introverts, the struggle is real. This blog is for you because, trust me, I’ve been there. I have scoured the internet for real, practical networking tips, only to be bombarded with the same old “Be confident!” and “Embrace your uniqueness!” Yeah, yeah, we get it. Now, let’s get straight to the point.

Networking was a tough pill to swallow for me, It wasn’t an “if I feel like it” situation; it was an “if I want to survive in my career, I better figure this out” kind of deal.So, my story? I spent five years in the corporate world, mostly in digital marketing and sales.Somehow, I mastered the art of cold calling, smashed my sales targets, and even worked my way up to leading a team. My ability to blend in? Elite-level like an Oscar-worthy performance, the bills had to be paid (lol). So, I made a bold move, pivoting into software development while also dipping my toes into entrepreneurship.

Here’s what I quickly realized: whether it’s business or tech, knowing people makes a huge difference. No matter how good you are at what you do, your chances of breaking into the field skyrocket when you have the right connections. I know it sounds exhausting.

Networking doesn’t have to mean forcing yourself into awkward small talk at crowded events while clutching a drink like it’s a life raft. There are ways to do this without feeling like you need to recharge for a week afterward. And that, my introverted friend, is exactly what we’re going to talk about.

Stay tuned, I promise this won’t be another “just put yourself out there” speech. We’re going for survival mode networking, introvert style.

Tip Number One

This starts before you even set foot at the networking event. You know that little voice whispering, “Maybe I should just stay home,” followed by a full blown butterfly invasion in your stomach? Shut it down, immediately. Do not entertain a single doubtful thought! The second you feel that sinking sensation creeping in, activate DESTRUCTION mode on those nerves.

Tip Number Two

Alright, it’s the big day! Do a bit of research, no need to become a walking encyclopedia, but at least know the basics: who’s attending and what you hope to gain. Overpreparing can make you even more anxious, so just set a simple goal, like making sure you connect with at least two people. Boom! manageable and effective.

Tip Number Three

Resist the urge to shadow someone or a group, it’s like the blind leading the blind. Most of them are just as lost as you. Instead, go straight for the heavy hitters. If there are speakers, approach them first. If one is swarmed by eager networkers, pivot to another. And if all else fails, start with the person sitting next to you. Now take a deep breath, worst-case scenario? They say “No.” And did you die? Nope! Remember, it’s never about you. People’s reactions are a reflection of them, not you. Now, enough of the pep talk.

Final Tip

Once you’ve had your chat, wrap it up smoothly, something like, “I’ll definitely connect on LinkedIn, and we can catch up!” If you genuinely vibed with someone, don’t let the opportunity slip (and no, this isn’t speed dating). Shoot them a message later that day or the next, and schedule a quick coffee chat (10 minutes max). And just like that, you’ve planted the seed for a solid professional connection.

Now, none of these tips are groundbreaking, but here’s what I realized midway: I actually love learning about people , what they’re working on, what excites them, and soaking up advice. Maybe you’ll discover the same thing. The reason I emphasize shutting down negative thoughts in Tip One? Because, honestly, the hardest part of this entire process is just showing up.

As introverts we have great skills, we’re great talkers, listeners, presenters, and deep thinkers. We just find socializing a little draining. But, like everything else in life, it’s all about balance!

Off you go, best of luck! And if this was helpful in any way, please do reach out, I’d love to hear how it went!